Marriage-Is he ready for marriage?

Is he ready for marriage? How does one know when a prospective mate or someone your dating is ready for marriage? You learn these things by communicating up front in the getting to know me phase (Date 1) before you invest time in a relationship. Before he says 2 years later he is not ready for marriage or he is never getting marriage.

 

I have heard few pastors preach on this matter. Most say, all men know when they are ready for marriage. I agree with that statement. If he has a true relationship with God, he will be able to recognize his wife when the father presents her to him.  So, if your dating a man and he tells you up front that he is not looking for a wife or he is not ready for marriage believe him.  Allow him to get himself together and ready for marriage. 

 

Men and women mature at different ages and that's okay. Men like to have themselves together before stepping into a committed marriage. Most real men pride themselves on being able to be a provider of the household. I have watched friends and associates  go through the joy of dating someone and pressuring him into marriage only for them to get divorced less than a year because he was not ready. He only did it to shut her up. Most importantly, a man chasing his dream may or may not be ready for a wife.

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Wise words to live by, allow him to be ready for marriage and not pressured into marriage so that you can have longevity of a healthy and happy marriage.  

Is the guy your dating, ready for marriage? 

What type of relationship defines your love life?

I was reading an article by Morgan Miller, 23 Types of Relationships that define your love life.  The link to the article is http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/dating-game/types-of-relationships and you can read more about it and other referenced articles.  I will be discussing these various topics as I agree with some of Morgan's statements that compatibility is going to be key to defining the type of relationship that you are apart of.

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Let's start with the five types of relationships that Morgan Miller discusses that defines your love life because these were interesting to me:

1. The Co-dependent Relationship
2. The Controlling Relationship
3. The Open Relationship
4. Friends With Benefits
5. Toxic Relationships

The Co-dependent Relationship, Morgan describes as being too dependent on your partner and not being able to make decisions without him or her.  I describe this as a needed or clingy relationship as the person relies solely on their partner to exist.  There is insecurity in this relationship with the partner that is dependent on the other.  Most men that I have talked with cannot stand an insecure woman and most women do not want an insecure man.  For me, I prefer not to be in this type of relationship because I need my partner to be able to make decisions without me at times especially when it comes to dinning out, attending movie or sports events.  This type of relationship cannot have longevity because it's too needy.

The controlling relationship and the Toxic Relationships, Morgan describes these separate with Controlling relationship as one partner dominant in the relationship while the other just follows his or her lead.  This relationship has signs of an abusive relationship that can become very toxic to the person's well being. Morgan describes Toxic Relationships as those that appear to be happy from the outside but miserable on the inside.  These type of relationships drain the life and happiness out of you.  It's like saying misery loves company and this is not a healthy relationship that if you define it in the first 30-60 days, then you need to remove yourself from this relationship as it will grow into more than a toxic relationship.  It will eventually lead to an abusive relationship. 

Friends with Benefits and The Open Relationship that Morgan describe are the same in the sense that you are sleeping with someone other than your partner.  Morgan defines Friends with benefits as sex with no attachments which results in someone falling in love.  I agree with this definition based on past experiences.  Sex is emotional and women and men do become emotionally attached.  His definition for The Open Relationship is described as having intimate relationships with others outside of the relationship because you are not open to intimacy with once another, but committed to the relationship.  Now, that seems more like your still in the dating phase of a relationship where no one has committed to a relationship of monogamy.

For those that are new to dating, which of the five types out of 23 define your relationship?  Do you even think about this when you are dating a person?  Does it cross your mind to define the type of relationship after 3 dates?

Welcome To Mya's Relationship Chronicles

Welcome to Mya's Relationship Chronicles that discuss love, romance, deceit, dating, and trials of relationships.  Everyone woman is searching for her Mr. Right and the man of her dreams.  However, at what cost will it take to get Mr. Right?

This all new rebrand and renamed Blog will be thought provoking and engaging as we discuss the dynamics of relationships. Many of the relationship articles will come from rebuttal articles from some of my favorite magazines online and print such as Essence, Hello Beautiful Magazine, For Harriet, The Root, and many more.   Building off of experiences in relationship journey to being found by Mr. Right not Mr. Wrong.  All views are that of the author. 

Welcome to my author's Blog Mya Diamonds. 

The blog articles will be enlightening and thought provoking to keep you coming back for more. 

Spoken Word-I Can't Breathe without You

I can't breathe without you.
I can't breathe without your touch.
I can't breath without your kiss.
I can't breathe without your smile.
I can't breathe without your gentle strokes against my body.
I can't breathe without the your arms wrapped around me to protect me, to embrace me, to caress me.
I can't breathe without your warm body pressed against mine.
I can't breathe without your love.
I can't breathe without your electrifying touch of your lips that excites my body from head to toe.
I can't breathe without you.

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All spoken words are owned by Letrise Carter and copyrighted 2015.

Update from Mya

I have been busy working on the design of my author's website that we are planning to go live on April 1, 2015.  I am very excited about the new website as it will house all of my Blogs, press release, book announcements, book tours, giveaways, appearances, and book launch for my debut novel Sister's Secret.  I will be sharing in the coming weeks the book cover for my debut novel. 

Writing my first novel has been truly amazing, long hours, and lots of editing.  Though we are not finished yet, but it will be a masterpiece that you all will love.  Sister's Secret is the introductory novel to the series as you will get to learn about the three sisters and all their drama, conflicts, and romance these sisters can get themselves into with three handsome men determined to bring out the best and worst. 

Follow me on Facebook and Twitter to stay up to date with what's going on with me.  New direction and new opportunities to greatness ahead.

 Remember, to never give up on your dreams.  Keep pushing forward.  If you fall get back up.

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Have a great Day all!

Who is Mya Diamonds?

Who is Author Letrise Carter?   She is a woman that loves to step inside the mind of her muse Mya's Relationship Chronicles. It's a great way to get creative with her altar ego Mya! Mya is inhibited and she is not afraid to step outside the box to create the unthinkable drama, pain, conflict, excitement, love, and ecstasy.

I was listening to the radio this morning and a question was posed, Who am I?  I  am a writer who is passionate about my gifts that I have been blessed with to inspire others through sharing my story whether its through fictional characters, a testimony, or a memoir.  I have discovered along this beautiful journey of life that I am ambitious, have a wild imagination, and a big dreamer.   I am a woman hoping to touch the hearts and minds of women and men with inspirational spoken word and stories about love with drama, life issues, family issues, and strong messages.  I am like a candle burning in the night hoping to lead someone out of darkness onto a journey of forgiveness that leads to happiness.

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Creating characters for me allows me to step outside the box, be mysterious, be uniquely, and be dramatic.  Writing  allows me to be in another world sometimes.  Writing allows me to talk about real issues in relationships that many have experienced who understands and who can share in laughter, joy, and even tears. For those who have not experienced the trials and tribulations of relationships and problems, be a light over a dark bridge.  

Who is Letrise Carter?  She is a writer of fiction, blogger, business woman, and big dreamer. She has a altar ego of a woman not afraid to let her dreams and desires come alive on paper.  She is a romance writer that hooks and plots drama, conflict, and real life issues with characters.

Great Dreamers

Have you been having the same repeatedly dream?  It's one of those dreams that if you believed you were worthy of the vision you would pursuit it without self doubt and fear. Could the reason this dream keeps coming to you be it's your destiny?  That dream is like a burning bush soaring to be birthed.

Great dreams come to those who will have an impact on the world! 

Your dreams are not just meant for you. They were meant to be shared with the world to change lives, uplift spirits, have an affect on people, and have an impact on people.  Your dreams can be a light that will pave a new pathway for future generations. It will be a shame to take your great dreams to your grave. Are you ready to build and unleash that great dream?

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